How to Get What You Want.
“If people stopped trying to not make things worse, we have no idea how much better they would get.” Jordan Peterson.
A few years ago, I started noticing something interesting in my own behavior:
The more i wanted to impress someone — be it a hiring manager, potential collaborator, acquaintance, a man I found attractive — the less of myself I would be with them.
The more importance I would place on that person, the less importance I placed on just being myself.